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ETA: See also Surviving Anxiety
"Some commentators have suggested, based on findings like Coplan’s, that the main cause of the economic crash of 2008 was politicians and financiers who were either stupid or insufficiently anxious or both."

This Is Anxiety - James Hamblin - The Atlantic

The following excerpt from the above article shows exactly how my phone anxiety is for me. I was fine as recently as 2008 when I single-handedly organised our move from Billingshurst to Horsham. I have no real idea why or when this problem started for me. I have been anxious about answering the phone when it rings for years (after stressful calls from mum, about dad and such like) but the anxiety about calling someone is more recent. I wonder if it can be attributed to brain damage caused by the multiple sclerosis.

How I make important phone calls:

1. Write down whatever I have to say.
2. Practice over and over.
3. Call the number.
4. Hang up as soon as someone answers. I wasn't ready or I jumble up my words.
5. Wait an hour or so and hope I don’t get the same person.
6. Wait some more because I was not ready an hour ago.
7. Call again (I may go though steps 3 though 6 again)

Sacramento, California


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Jan. 13th, 2014 08:20 pm (UTC)
I have to make phone calls at my job, and I've learned to "wing it" through most of those with stock phrases. However, I can't really call most of my friends. For some reason, the anxiety is much worse with them than with business associates--I'm afraid to miscommunicate, be blown off, etc.
Jan. 13th, 2014 10:25 pm (UTC)
I call it "telephonophobia" which is at least fun to say.

Unfortunately, the fun it is to say doesn't make it any less impairing. I do better with work calls than personal calls. I do the worst when I have to call someone and I have met multiple people in the household who might also answer the phone. I go into rigors of anxiety about if I should just ask for the person I want, give my name first, talk to whoever answers. . .

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