The result of grooming isn’t abuse, because it’s the same. The result of grooming is the abuser eventually can take it full circle, eventually they don’t have to do anything to you. Eventually all they have to do is give you a look, or make an innocuous observation, and you can do the rest of the work for them, inside yourself. Eventually it comes back to the beginning, and all they have to say is, “Are you sure you want to do that?” and you will feel the self-hatred and immobilizing self-doubt that they’ve instilled in you.
Trigger warnings: discussions of child abuse of all kinds.
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Indeed. Grooming is not a lead up to abuse, it IS abuse.