November 5th, 2012

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Not just her, it seems, but that does not make it any easier, sadly.

Apparently it is not just my mother that does not listen to people about how they best function and are happiest existing, let alone any boundaries they might have. I read this post (please read that post - she says a lot that I feel) from brightlotusmoon, earlier today, and added a reply:

I was going to say, "Just ignore them." Then I wondered why they were reminding me more and more of my mother, who I do ignore when she starts on about this stuff. Then you wrote something that could have been 100% about my mother:

This person is older; a fairly anti-technology person who doesn't care for social networks and the like, who mainly uses the internet for research and to email people.

You could have written that about my mother who is 70 on the 10th and has said most of these things to me that this other person has said to you. Again, I say, just ignore them with respect to this subject. It is the only way I can have any kind of relationship with my mother, even though that relationship has become more and more arms length, despite her living near me. I have a phone phobia after years of her starting arguments with me on the phone and so, if she will not interact with me in the way that I can interact with people (through the computer/intarwebz) then we just do not interact and I just cannot waste spoons on caring about that any more.

So I am thinking that it might be a generational "thing" but at least some people will back down and learn (brightlotusmoon's mum for one, cf. her reply to my comment). I only wish that my mum might one day do that but, if anything, she is becoming more entrenched in her ways and I am not holding my breath…

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