Stuff happened and, instead of venting on my LJ either in public or friends-only, I wrote it all out elsewhere.
a) Writing it down while it was all fresh in my mind means that I will be able to look up what was said and what happened if I ever need to.
b) Writing it down got it out of my head and I was almost instantly calm again and happier. This is one real benefit of the MonSter and its caused memory flaws - I can move on from stuff so quickly, sometimes, these days as long as I have the intarwebz to distract me.
Yes, this way I will not have the benefit of my LJFriends' experience but I have none the less been able to put it behind me and also able to look at it from outside and see where I went wrong. The initial issues that started the episode have not been addressed or resolved but I am at least resigned to them and will hopefully be able to learn to live with them.