May 1st, 2007

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The Truce

The Truce
An agreement between me and my readers.

As much as I love and appreciate your messages and your loving and supportive thoughts, prayers and concerns, that is NOT why I post some of my entries. I post them to document my life for myself, my friends and my family who I may not see or speak to IRL very often. I sometimes post merely to vent or rant - to get something out of my system.

Sometimes I will disable comments. That will just mean that I don't want to talk about the subject matter in that entry and that I trust that you would not even email me about it or mention it anywhere else or to anyone else.

Please do not think that I don't treasure your words of support, but I am not posting these updates to fish for your sympathy. I know many of you don't know what to say in response to these posts. You don't need to say anything. It only makes me feel guilty for posting in the first place. Honestly. Sometimes I truly do not want any help.

How about we strike a truce? If you feel the need to respond, just send me one of the 'non-comments' below and I'll know you're there with me. Okay?

This truce has since been expanded to encompass any sad, miserable, whiney post that I might make.

Thank you for honoring the truce.

Oh yeah - those suggested 'non-comments'!
e.g.
LY. MI. (= Love You. Mean It.)
"I hear you."
"I am here."
":-)"

Based on and edited from The Truce drawn up by a friend.

N.B. This is a public entry and so I am hereby invoking The Truce!
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PUBLIC: My request to you, my readers

My request to you, my readers:

Please do not friend me or ask to be added to my 'friends'-list if you cannot respect my rights with regards to how I use MY journal(s):

- my right to say/do what I want to say/do in my own livejournal(s).
That is, of course, every blogger's and livejournal user's right.

- my right to expect you to respect my post-filtering boundaries.
e.g. DO NOT comment on entry B about entry A in case entry A was a filtered entry or if entry A was under The Truce or had comments disabled - because then someone who was not meant to see entry A could find out about it.
If you do not know what post filtering and friends-groups are, can I suggest that you read the relevant page of the livejournal FAQ.

- my right to expect you to respect my use of comments-disabled posts.
i.e. I DO NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. FULL. STOP.

- my right to trust you to not try to help me when I don't want any help.
This is when I don't want to talk about something and have either invoked The Truce or have disabled comments.

- my right to trust you to trust me to ask for help when I do want it.
When I have not disabled comments or invoked The Truce you can safely say that I am implicitly asking for (or, at least, not refusing) help, suggestions and comments.

- my right to be allowed to invoke The Truce at any time.
...by saying, "I invoke The Truce" anywhere in an entry.

Please also bear in mind that, it should go without saying, you do not have an implicit 'right to reply' in MY journal(s).
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