Nat S Ford (natf) wrote,
Nat S Ford

More cyber-bullying in the knitting community

Mel from the Single Handed Knits podcast is also having a hard time on TEH INTARWEBZ. Knitters can be lovely, caring and supportive people (and knitters via plurk had a huge part in donating money which covered Smudge's euthanasia as well as the rallying-around that occurred in the knitting community when KnitPurlGrrl (Karrie) died so suddently) but, as I have found in the past and now Mel is experiencing, they can also be cruel and closed-minded. I will always own my words, as my readers here know, and this is why I tend to almost always post publicly. At least I know that this time the nastiness comes from a podcaster and so I do not need to worry that I might be the suspect. Yes, I do worry that I might have said something out of place again. I have a vague idea whom it might have been. I hope that I am wrong but, if I am right then I am doubly justified in un-plurk-and-ravelry-friending this person and stopping watching their podcast. If I am wrong then I wish I knew who to un-plurk-and-ravelry-friend and stop watching.

My message to Mel:

As Zena said on her podcast, I wish that I knew which podcaster had said these things so that I could be forewarned and maybe stop watching their podcast. I too have been cyber-bullied after trying to explain to a podcaster why a word that they were saying triggered my PTSD. In the end I had to just stop watching their and a few other podcasts as those podcasters circled the wagons and started to cyber-bully me, even though one of them professed to be a mental-health professional - they were very unprofessional in the things that they said to me.

Agh sorry - I have gone off on one and made it all about me.

Suffice to say that I love you, love your podcast and your positivity, even if I find it hard to be positive all the time in my daily life. I too have a disability (multiple sclerosis plus the aforementioned PTSD and chronic clinical depression) and your accomplishments are so inspiring to me - I have even put an e-spinner on my wishlist for if/when we win the lottery! I would really miss you and your podcast if you stopped. I am sure that I would not be the only one that gains so much from your accomplishments and that is always so happy to see what you have accomplished this time. If you can do it, maybe I can as well!

So, hugs and know that not all of us out here are nasty and mean-spirited. I have had to learn to delete, delete, DELETE the hatefulness and take each day as it comes.

I would still, like Zena, love to know which podcaster to avoid in the future. I need to delete these nasty and abusive people from my life. I hope that you can do that as well and know that there are so many of us out here that love you and would miss you.

That said, if you need to stop podcasting for the sake of your own health and sanity then I understand. Yes, I would be saddened that yet another nasty-hearted person had won in the anonymity of internet cyber-bullying but I would hope that you could be safer and happier what ever you decide.
Tags: bullies, bullying, cyber-bullying, knitters, podcasters

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