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If one in twenty guys (or more) is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, in a pick-up game of basketball, at a bar, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can't tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It's not like they announce themselves.

Shakesville: Feminism 101: Helpful Hints for Dudes, Part 3
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.


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Mar. 4th, 2011 03:29 pm (UTC)
Three sentences in and I've found a factual error...

Unfortunately in the UK men can't be victims of rape under UK law. Sexual assault, yes, rape, no.


I am pleased to say that wouldn't accept rape jokes told in my presence - or anything to do with non consent. However, possibly hypocritically, I do let blatantly sexist and racist jokes pass by so long as the teller is clearly saying that it is unacceptable *and* that it is funny.


The issue of non-objection is wider than just rape. I have seen lots of people making jokes about killing bankers. To me this is on the same level as rape jokes and yet NO ONE complains "you shouldn't joke about killing a minority of the population just because you don't like them".


I have more to say on this but it will just sound like a rant.

I hope I can live up to the ideals described in the article and not provide support to that small percentage of genuine rapists by letting them think they are ok.
Mar. 4th, 2011 03:30 pm (UTC)
The title describes this as "part 3". Do you know if there is an earlier part - or is it just saying that it is an on going discussion...
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