The one of the four that spoke to me the most is this:
2. Reframe the task in a way that takes out the “should”
My therapist helped me with this one. “Why should you finish the story?” she asked me. I listed my reasons. “So it’s not like you ‘should’ do this,” she told me, “but that you want to do this.”
It’s not like I came home from this session, sat down at my laptop and knocked out the story, but it did help me re-orient my thinking. As soon as we use the word ‘should’, we set ourselves up to rebel against ourselves. ‘Should’ takes the rich deep joy of writing and turns it into homework. Who wants to do homework?
‘Should’ is a dangerous word. And since words are thoughts, and vice versa, you must handle it with caution. Better yet, don’t use it at all.
One of my previous therapists/counsellors worked through how the word "should" is a burden with me. I now avoid that word as if it is plague. It may as well be the plague because it disables me totally.
Tribal Writer = moschus = Justine Lee Musk.
Edited To Add: The second part has the other 6.